Week 3 of reverb10

Day 20: Author: Jake Nickell

Prompt: Beyond avoidance. What should you have done this year but didn't because you were too scared, worried, unsure, busy or otherwise deterred from doing? (Bonus: Will you do it?)

I hate the word should. But. This question is very pertinent and needs answering. But, I'll insert "need" where "should" stood.

In 2010 I needed to biggify and I haven't done it yet.

And that was largely due to fear, but also somewhat due to time constraints. (Remy not being placed in his school situation til mid November put a damper on my fall plans, actually. I've planned in some mucking around time which I'm doing now, but I'd hoped to get that over by November!)

Will I biggify in 2011? I hope so. And I hope that the recent trend continues and I continue to come more and more into my own as a person. (So far so good!)
Day 21: Author: Jenny Blake

Prompt: Future self. Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the year ahead? (Bonus: Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?)

Dear Alexis 2011, from Alexis 2016, written in 2010:

You'll probably think this is as doofy as I do writing it. That's ok. We can write things that are doofy.

Don't forget the big lessons of 2011. The roller coaster year*.

Do laugh a lot. Go out on dates with M and have fun. Put down the iPod when you're together. Keep singing and playing with Remy. Don't beat yourself up when you have a hard day.

Are you house hunting? Remember the old house and don't repeat that mistake, even if you did love the house. Or maybe repeat it. A house isn't awesome unless you love it.

Write more! Every day. Your memory is not getting better. Photographs rock, but they don't tell the whole story. Be generous with your words, but archive them better.

Don't be afraid to spend money on your dreams. Don't be afraid of your dreams. You have exactly what it takes to realize them, even if it takes time and effort.

(But no, you don't need a new lens to take your photography to a new level. A professional camera body, maybe. But maybe not. New lenses are nice but they're not the end all be all. Your eye is. Don't forget it!)

Make a savings plan now so you can take a long vacation in December/ January.

Find a doctor. And a dentist. Do it now! You've lived here how long? And find a massage therapist -- shiatsu? And some way to get into very hot water on a regular basis when it's cold. You'll thank me.

* True facts, after I wrote that was my word of the year, my husband who does not read this blog got me this card for my birthday:

Day 22: Author Tara Hunt

Prompt: Travel. How did you travel in 2010? How and/or where would you like to travel next year?

We were in Cali at the beginning of 2011. Flew home.

Road tripped to Tampa for Spring Break. Then to NJ/NYC during May (to house hunt, but the offer we ended up making fell through).

Then after we sold our house, we visited South Carolina and Virginia for a few days each before coming here to find a place to live.

And for Labor Day (our anniversary weekend), we did a spontaneous mini-vacay to the Jersey Shore.

And last, but not least, another road trip for Thanksgiving, to Chicago, to be with family.

I've mentioned there are a lot of weddings coming up: my sister C is getting married in Mexico in April. Then the friend in SC in April. Then in June, another family wedding in Chicago.


I'm sure we'll travel more than that (we do love traveling), but we'll see. I think our only plane trip will be to Mexico. But again, we'll see.
Day 23: Author Becca Wilcott

Prompt: New name. Let's meet again, for the first time. If you could introduce yourself to strangers by another name for just one day, what would it be and why?

Are you kidding me? No. Just no.

You can call me Alexis or Lexie or Lex or Alexa or Alex or Lexical or any variation on my name (or give me a silly descriptive nickname, that's cool), but I do not want a new name. Even for a day.

As an actor and a writer, I know very damn well the power of names. Taking on a mask to introduce myself to strangers does not sound authentic or fun. Acting is fun. But not if the audience doesn't know it's an act. (This is part of my problem with Sasha Baron Cohn's method. Tho the movie audience does know. Eventually. So, there's still recognition.)

Not a cool prompt. Unlike.
Day 24: Author: Kate Inglis

Prompt: Everything's OK. What was the best moment that could serve as proof that everything is going to be alright? And how will you incorporate that discovery into the year ahead?

I wrote about this moment in October, and it was indeed one of many "everything is alright" moments I had this past year.

Incorporating it means cultivating awe, wonder and amazement. Stillness. Quiet. And, regularly being alone with the grandeur of the world. And my camera.